The Art of Letting Go – (cartoon edition)

Cartoons are not just your average children’s past time… it gives a distinctive lesson when times get tough and the only thing left to say is ‘goodbye’.  But the mere fact of letting thy parting words depart on thy sweet lips takes a lot of guts and courage and you need ‘someone’ to hold on to draw the power seems to be impossible, i would recommend that you get your nephews cartoon collection and swing those DVD’s to your player and drown yourself with their animated world.

Yup, because beyond the entertainment value it may give you to lighten thy burden, it imparts valuable lessons as well.  Read the quotes below and may you garner the strength to move on.

No matter how we try to be mature…

we will always be a kid when we all get hurt and cry

– Peter Pan

so shed thy tears.  Its OK! Even if your a guy.

It would ease up the burden and it wouldnt cause a penny to your manhood

Paano ba namamatay ang tao?

Pag binaril ba siya?

Pag nilason?

Pag hindi na humihinga?

Sabi sa ONE PIECE ANIME

Namamatay lang ang tao

Pag wala na siya sa puso at isipan ng iba.

Were so busy watching out for what’s just ahead of us

that we don’t take time to enjoy where we are – Calvin and Hobbes

Some things aren’t meant to be kept forever.

You know you have to stop and let go when things aren’t going right and everything you did is unappreciated…

Remember what batman says?

Its wiser to be alone but happy…

than with somebody who does nothing while your doing everything

the MOST INSPIRING MESSAGES if your EX comes back

It’s time for you to hold up the flag of freedom.  Your EX came back out from nowhere.  He kept on texting you.  He kept on forwarding sappy messages about ‘love and longing’. He kept on e-mailing mushy stuff about ‘forgiveness’ and ‘can we work things out kind-of-thing’.  Hell, he was even talking with your sister after decades of anonymity. 

 

He has this lame excuse all tucked in his belt.

 

But YOU on the other hand, after you claim sanity back to the ‘land of the living’, happy being single and contented with what you are currently doing right now (we could shortlist it to ‘flirting’ and ‘reading daily horoscopes’).  You even found a new a hobby such as collecting stamps and tried out new sports you haven’t tried before like kickboxing, archery, masonry etc.  In short, you’re happy being single with the company of friends and family.  You can finally say ‘‘naknamputsa, who needs his cheating white ass after all’.

 

Now, he is back. The guy who left you…  The guy whom you worship walked out because of some lame excuse. 

 

‘I think we are not meant with each other’

‘We are two different people’

‘I just wanted some space…’

‘it’s not you…its me..’

‘I just want to think things over’

 

You can still remember how heavy the sky is in which it has pulled all its weight on you.  How many barrels of tears you shed and the number of plates you smashed at the wall.

 

What will you do?  How will you let him know that you’re no longer in love with him and of course slap him with your sweet revenge?  Here are some of the most inspiring text messages I’ve had collected that you could send him either through text or email…

 

ENJOY!

 

revenge text number 1

Some people say that you don’t have to know what you have until you lose it, but it’s not like that…you always know what you have, you just never thought you would lose it

 

revenge text number 2

Here is something from Ally McBeal that touched me

 

‘If you see me walking the road with someone else, it is not because I like that person’s company, it is because you were not brave enough to walk beside me. If you hear me talking about that person all the time, it is not because that person pleases me, it is because you were too deaf to hear my heart beats.  If you feel me falling with someone new, it is not because I love that person, it is because you were not there to catch me as I fall.’

 

revenge text number 3

Learn to love the person who’se willing to love you at present! Forget the person in the past and learn to thank them for hurting you which lead you to the right person you have right now. 

 

THANK YOU FOR BEING MY PAST.

 

revenge text number 4

Don’t be cold to someone you care about…just because you that person couldn’t realize your worth.  Instead be nice to him so he could realize what he has been missing.

 

revenge text number 5

SOMETIMES you need to be deaf for the sake of somebody

You need to be insensitive to lessen the pain

You need to smile for the strength of others

 

And sometimes…

You just need to stop…because you’re tired of everything

 

revenge text number 6

I sometimes miss the comfort of having someone but I’m getting used to being alone.  I’ve learned to let go, proud to say I moved on and that time has made me strong.  I screwed up at one point, its stupid, I know but life goes on after all and finally I know what I truly deserve… a peace of mind and not a piece of shit

 

revenge text number 7

when someone leaves you, don’t hope and wait for that person to come back…feel good about yourself and say: ‘thanks for giving me the chance to find someone better than you’

 

revenge text number 8

when you leave, you never begin to consider the possibility, in leaving the best you’ve had so far,  you are leaving the best you’ll ever have

– eliot perlman

 

revenge text number 9

you’ll never find anybody that achieves great success in life without a give up story.  Nothing comes free… and there will come a time when you will find that you too will have to give up something good if you want something better.  Thank you for being the one reason why I want to be better.

 

revenge text number 10

a single mistake can change your whole life. From then you’ll see how the little things you ignore meant everything.  Thank you for admitting your wrong since I will never be yours ever again. I moved on

 

BONUSE revenge text for YOU

I don’t worry too much about the people who hurt me right now because eventually they will know my worth and someday they will die.  And I’m patiently waiting

guidelines in finding TRUE LOVE (part 1)

 

 

 

Every February, we celebrate Valentines day.  Its a fitting tribute for the month of love and romance as i serve ‘Guidelines in Finding True Love’.  Though single,  i have my own share of relationships in the past, therefore, i could relate as well.  Herewith is the first 10 batch. Happy Valetines Everyone!!

 

 

GUIDE 1  A PERFECT someone only exists in dreams…but in reality we should learn to appreciate the REAL someone…

 

it may not the one you expect but someone you deserve.

 

 

GUIDE 2  True love does not come by finding the perfect person but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly…

 

love the heart that hurts you but never hurt the heart that loves you

                                                                                                                   

GUIDE 3 

 

QUESTION: Can love really last a lifetime?

 

ANSWER: scientist found out that that romantic love involves chemical changes in the brain that last 12-18 months.  After that, you and your partner are on your own. The fact is, love can absolutely last for a lifetime as desired to be maintained.  Meaning, its both your choice.  Bottom line; it will last if you know how to commit.  Source: Readers Digest (May 2006)

 

GUIDE 4 Never love someone who would lie to you, who would never show his trust and would never ever let you feel your loved

 

GUIDE 5 Don’t talk too much when your mad. You might say things you don’t mean to say.

 

GUIDE 6 Never let pride ruin everything.  Its better to lose your pride than to lose the love of your life because of your pride.

 

GUIDE 7 Some people have many lovers running after them. Some people have so much people they like that it gets hard to be serious. 

 

But you know what I have learned?  That someone who suddenly comes into your life doesn’t have to be  as good looking as your ex’s OR not as hot as a model.  He doesn’t have to be all that…as they say… ‘hindi mo kailangan ng marami, ang kailangan mo lang ay isang seseryosohin ka at mamahalin ka ng buong buo.’ 

 

So take the risk, the person you least expect might be the person who will make you happy and spend the rest of your life.

 

GUIDE 8 The greatest happiness in life is the conviction that we are loved for ourselves, or rather loved in spite of ourselves.  Nothing feels better than the knowledge that someone loves you completely for who you are.  Accepting all of the positives and negatives about you.

 

GUIDE 9 

 

‘Im starting to learn….

You cant make someone love you. 

You cant make someone be faithful to you. 

You cant make someone be faithful to you. 

You cant control your own sometimes. 

 

Things happen: good, bad, indifferent.  You just have to let some things go and hope they turn out for the best. 

 

Its like falling off a horse.  Youre in the air, and you know its going to hurt like hell when you hit the ground.  But there isn’t enough time to stop it. So close your eyes and hope for the best’ – Amanda Meer

 

GUIDE 10 According to Hitch, there are only 3 things you must NOT do in a relationship.  Never LIE, CHEAT and STEAL.  But if you must LIE, never lie in the arms of the one you love.  If you must STEAL, steal away from bad company. If you must CHEAT, cheat death.  Remember life is not the amount of breath you take.  But rather the moments that take you breath away.

the ART of letting go (part 2)

heres the second series of the ‘THE ART OF LETTING GO’.  thank you readers for your great comments. enjoy the post!

MANTRA 11

Do NOT count what you lost.

Instead cherish what you have and plan what to gain.

The past never returns but the future may fulfill the loss.

MANTRA 12

LAW OF UNATTACHMENT:

Don’t cling to anything that needs to go.

Everything in this world is not permanent.

You just have to love it while you have it

MANTRA 13

Being a quitter doesn’t mean that you are a looser.

Every time you quit doesn’t mean you are giving up.

It only means that you have to let go of what you think is unfair.

MANTRA 14

When you love, never stick only to what your heart feels.

Remember that sometimes, your brain is a necessity.

Next, never use your eyes to cry for the person who hurt you.  Instead use it to search for the right one.

Lastly, don’t be scared breaking up.  Keeping a relationship without love is just a waste of time.

Take note, love the one who will fight for you and bravely face each and every consequence.  Someone you can call ‘mine’ rather than ‘ideal’.

MANTRA 15

Don’t overuse your heart trying to love the one you think who loves you too. You should save the best part for the person who deserves you and deserves to be loved by you

MANTRA 16

You are the only person responsible for your happiness.

Don’t depend on someone else to experience it for you

MANTRA 17

Sometimes, you just have to put a period on something that has to end and not just settle on a comma….

WHY?

CAUSE TIME WILL COME… you’ll realize that its nicer to see a complete sentence, rather than seeing a phrase, that DOESNT MAKE ANY SENSE

MANTRA 18

NEVER BEG PEOPLE TO STAY AGAINST THEIR WILL…

Sometimes the gift of goodbye opens up another door.  Move on but don’t move away.

MANTRA 19

If we dwell too much on the past, we pass up the chance to change and grow.

Whether we like it or not, it takes an extra effort to allow changes in our lives.

We have to make choices.

We have to make space.

We have to let things go.

We have to let things change

MANTRA 20

When you stumble, pick yourself up!

Never wait for someone to pick and get you back to life.

After all, you were born alone, single and strong.

10 qualities of a ‘great’ boyfriend

 

 

 

During my hazy days of passing forwarded messages, a friend of mine texted TEN QUALITIES OF A GREAT BOYFRIEND.  Things that an idealistic girl formulated in her head and make it ‘the standard in finding a mate’. 

 

 

It’s a TOUGH LIST … and some may be debatable but nevertheless, let me just share it with you… and if you have any violent or any thoughts you may want to share, please feel free to write your comments

 

THE QUALITIES OF A ‘GREAT’ BOYFRIEND

 

1. Will always make time for you

2. Respect all your ideas and decisions

3. talks to you about serious stuff

4. treat your friends really well

5. lets you make up your own mind

6. comfort you when you really need someone

7. always remember special days

8. occasionally do something really romantic

9. love you for who you are and often tell you that!

10. know when to leave you alone and give you space.

 

But come to think of it…do we really need this list? 

 

The journey to love is hard enough to travel, let alone, setting a ‘standards list’ as straight girls tried to find ‘a perfect husband’.

coffee, love and a rainy friday morning

It’s a drizzly Friday morning.

 

As I hold a cup of hot coffee and snuggle with my computer, a text message were received…

 

To laugh is to risk appearing foolish

To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.

To reach out for another is to risk involvement.

To expose feelings is to risk exposing true self.

To place ideas and dreams before a crowd is to risk ridicule.

To love is to risk not being loved in return.

To live is to risk dying.

To hope is to risk despair.

To try is to risk failure.

 

 

The person who risks nothing…

Does nothing…

Has nothing…

And ultimately becomes nothing.

 

I can’t help but wonder… do we have to risk a part of us on an everyday basis?

 

In business, you invest.  In a poker game, you risk your money and in love …you risk that someone will jump over your heart.

 

I guess, in battle of love and roses, no one gets out of the fight without a single bruise or a chip in his shoulder.  If love could leave a battle scar, I would have shown you my whole body full of emotional scars that love brings.

 

As of the moment…i’m just happy to be single. 

 

Love… it has always been there but id rather not say to the object of my affection for I am not ready to enter the battle grounds.

the art of letting go (part 1)

one of the painful tragedies in life is the so called

‘break up’, matched by the most awful medicine prescribed by heart doctors - ‘letting go’.

I should know since I’ve seen both sides of the coin and without the help of friends and comrades, I may have been writing this blog in a loony bin.  As time passes, i have collected some quotable quotes or text messages which I would like to share.  Believe me, it might sound corny but these messages may be able to brighten up your cloudy sky.  Read along….

MANTRA 1:

If love becomes painful…

Its time to let that love go and save yourself

You got to keep this in mind ‘you’ll be able to find another love but not another self’

MANTRA 2:

In life you will realize that the people you meet have a purpose.

Some were put there to test you…

some would use you (and I learned this the hard way…jeeezzz)

some would teach you

some would bring out the better if not the best in you.

Some may even cause you pain and heartache

BUT one must learn to move on…

so let go of the people who can’t treat you right and hold on to those who love your back and see your worth.

MANTRA 3:

You can never find rest until you finally let go of the hatred that fits your heart

MANTRA 4:

‘I’m starting to learn.

You can’t make someone love you.

You can’t make someone be faithful to you.

You can’t control your own faith sometimes.

Things happen: good, bad, indifferent.

You just have to let some things go and hope for the best

MANTRA 5:

Love… is neither about judging nor being a perfectionist.

Love… is about accepting, understanding and self sacrificing and most of all,

Love… is supposed to make you happy, dear….

not stupid!

MANTRA 6:

The best part of being in love is when you just love a person and be happy about it.

Even if that person can never be yours, even if you know that it can lasts forever!

That’s the true essence of love.

It’s not about winning someone.

It’s not about owning a relationship.

It’s just about being happy because you know you’ve loved someone.

It’s about being guiltless because you know you didn’t take away someone from anybody.

You just love and love unselfishly.

MANTRA 7:

If an angel and devil were to fall in love with each other…

Can there be love with each other?

Can their love transcend the law of heaven and hell?

Can the angel set her wings on fire?

Can the devil soar at the day light?

This is faith’s decree

MANTRA 8:

Love can’t change what aren’t meant to be

MANTRA 9:

Kapag niloloko ka na at madalas pinagmumukha kang tanga at bukod sayo ay meron pang iba?

Kahit mahal mo siya dapat ng iwan.

Stop torturing yourself dahil wala pang medalya para sa TANGA!

MANTRA 10:

It doesn’t make you less of  a person if you don’t belong to somebody, but don’t get so caught up and stick with someone and fail to get to know  and meet others.

You don’t need to have them to feel good about yourself.