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I can still read your name on my right arm… they are all healed but i can still see the marks

Its like yesterday when i scribbled your name
Swearing why it hurts
Asking GOD why i love thee

Blood runs through my veins
The blood drips on the floor
The blade hums my endearing love

But time heals all wounds
Its true
Now its just a white mark
But my heart still has to heal thyself

I know in time ill get over you
My heart is still dripping with blood
Can i move on.

One tiny step
One last breath
One more chance

the art of letting go (instagram quotes)


The advent of instagram is truly remarkable.  Its one of the most active app i have and one of the most endearing social networks that i joined in.  The rest of the world can follow you and show your affection through a 4×4 post.  I followed endearing accounts such as Lessons Learned in Life, I Like To Quote, Pin Quotes, Positive Outlooks and much more to give that extra push on my daily grind.  Here are some quotes that i had posted which reminded my self-worth and dont forget to follow me as well: http://instagram.com/the_world_of_aj


the ART of LETTING GO (picture series 1)


 

“The Art of Letting Go” series is one successful blog entry that i decided to create a whole new series from images found in the ever popular  site TUMBLR, LOVEQUOTESPLUS and SEARCHQUOTES.  So i decided to bring it back and compile ten beautiful quotes that will surely inspire you, (my dear readers) to finally ‘let go’.

 

 

4 easy steps guaranteed to make you SMILE!


Rejected by the guys whom you thought you’ll say ‘forever’ or he abandons you in the middle of nowhere without a word.

Maybe, you don’t like what you see in the mirror and seems that no one even finds you charming.

Better yet, you gave up because no one finds you attractive!!


Well… im no expert but everything i have described are the one i feel… today.


but there is yearning voice at the back of my head YELLING ‘SNAP OUT OF IT…MORON”. And we come to realize that listening would’nt hurt a bit but rather help us in finding ourselves once again.  Finally, another lightbulb moment: We fail to be happy cause we are not satisfied with what we have.

So here are a few satisfaction guidelines that i could you share and i hope that will help you as well:


    do not hold on to something that would never be yours


    do not fight for someone not worth fighting for


    do not cry for something lost, gone and inevitable


    appreciate what you have and be thankful for whatever things people give you

happiness is a mere conduct of the mind. Everyone can be happy as long as they really want too.



I want to be HAPPY and I WILL….

the Art of Letting Go (part 5)


MANTRA 41: when you hold someone, hold them like it’s the last time you’ll ever see them and when they go… don’t make reasons for them to stay… make reasons for them to return


MANTRA 42: In your life, you’ll take note of a lot of people.

One’s with whom you shared something special, will always mean something.  There’s the one you 1st kissed, the one you first loved, the one who 1st broke your heart, the one you’ll put on pedestal, the one your with right now and the who got away.

That person with whom everything was perfect but timing was just wrong.  No fault in the person, no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just don’t fall the right way



MANTRA 43: the sand thought me ONE THING “you cant hold on too many things, no matter what you do to make them stay, and no matter how much they want to stay, the wind will always blow them away


so learn to let go and choose carefully which you want to stay, because like the sand, ‘only’ those which are in the center of your palm will last…


MANTRA 44: whats the difference between MOVED ON and I FORGOT YOU ALREADY.. wanna know?



When you say I FORGOT YOU ALREADY, you totally accept the fact that the person you call mine is not yours anymore.


But when you say I moved on, you just realized that its over but the feeling is still there.  Youre just ignoring it….

MANTRA 45: All suffering is caused by being in the wrong place.  If your unhappy where you are …

MOVE

MANTRA 46: Do you know that the heart has no pain receptors?  So the next time someone breaks your heart, move on.  Your pain is just an illusion.  A temporary psychological disturbance that you have to overcome


MANTRA 47:

No one ever gets tired of loving,

‘but everyone gets tired of waiting, assuming, hearing lies, saying sorry and hurting.


So snap out of it and learn to let go


MANTRA 48:

You should not be sorry bout love.

Rather it should make you wonder that if you were once happy with the wrong one, how much more when the right one comes.


MANTRA 49: Ang pinakamahirap na parte ng paglayo sa taong di ka kayang mahalin, ay ang … bonggang bongang katotohanang di ka niya hahabulin


MANTRA 50:

if theres one thing ive learned from falling in LOVE

its to stand up no matter how painful the cuts;


to fight for what I believe in and to wait.


Because even if I think now is the right time to give extra effort – waiting is even worth it

the most heart breaking text messages i have read… (series 5)




HANKY 41

Too many LIES can weaken one’s trust…

Too much BETRAYALS can cause a person to be afraid

And the sad truth is …


Too much PAIN felt by a loving heart can cause it to freeze

 

Till it goes numb by the never ending pain,

Until it doesnt feel any love… anymore(Sad but true)

 


HANKY 42

To love someone doesn’t mean to commit with that person.

Sometimes you just have to be satisfied with whatever connection you have with that special one.

Isn’t it sad when you are so much in love right now, but you cant freely let it out?

And your so damn scared to show it to all cause of one reason?  ITS COMPLICATED

 

 


HANKY 43

Are we really hurt because we can’t tell the person we love what we really feel? Or are we hurt because at the back of our minds we know that telling the object of our affection what we really feel wont make any difference

 


HANKY 44


People must try to be sensitive…

cause not everyone is strong enough to endure pain.

After all there’s no anesthesia for a broken heart

 


HANKY 45

What makes us a FOOL??? When it hurt us to the core seeing the one you love with somebody else, but still, you keep on staring.

 



HANKY 46

UNCERTIANITY is the biggest torture in love.

You feel jealous yet you cant complain. You can get hurt yet you cant show it. You can love with your all yet you cant say it. All you can do is watch, keep the pain, enjoy, the smiles, hugs and kisses then show how much that person means to you

HANKY 47

The love you cant have….

Last’s the longest

Feels the strongest

And hurts the MOST.

 


HANKY 48

Akala mo hindi ka niya mahal dahil mas pinili nyang maging magkaibigan na lang kayo….

pero ang hindi mo alam… higit ka niyang mahal dahil pinili niya kung saan kayo mas magtatagal

(this message really makes me cry…why cant we be more than friends – AJ)

 


HANKY 49


In this world, it’s hard to tell who’s true and who’s not

People may be good at the beginning and be cruel in the end;

If your too trusting, they’ll take advantage of you;

if they know your weak, they’ll hurt you and suck the blood our from your veins;

after loving them, they’ll leave you behind… gasping for air.

The Art of Letting Go – (cartoon edition)


Cartoons are not just your average children’s past time… it gives a distinctive lesson when times get tough and the only thing left to say is ‘goodbye’.  But the mere fact of letting thy parting words depart on thy sweet lips takes a lot of guts and courage and you need ‘someone’ to hold on to draw the power seems to be impossible, i would recommend that you get your nephews cartoon collection and swing those DVD’s to your player and drown yourself with their animated world.


Yup, because beyond the entertainment value it may give you to lighten thy burden, it imparts valuable lessons as well.  Read the quotes below and may you garner the strength to move on.

No matter how we try to be mature…

we will always be a kid when we all get hurt and cry

– Peter Pan

so shed thy tears.  Its OK! Even if your a guy.

It would ease up the burden and it wouldnt cause a penny to your manhood


Paano ba namamatay ang tao?

Pag binaril ba siya?

Pag nilason?

Pag hindi na humihinga?

Sabi sa ONE PIECE ANIME

Namamatay lang ang tao

Pag wala na siya sa puso at isipan ng iba.


Were so busy watching out for what’s just ahead of us

that we don’t take time to enjoy where we are – Calvin and Hobbes

Some things aren’t meant to be kept forever.

You know you have to stop and let go when things aren’t going right and everything you did is unappreciated…

Remember what batman says?

Its wiser to be alone but happy…

than with somebody who does nothing while your doing everything

The Art of Letting Go (special post)


Yahoo.com posted and written by SkyCaster (Oct 6, 2009) which i felt its meant to be re-posted for my dear readers of  “the Art of Letting Go’ series… read on


Breakup Recovery 101: Five Rules You Must Follow!

Whether or not you were together for two weeks, six months, or four years, breakups hurt. And they can be really hard to get over. If you listen to the wise words of Charlotte on Sex and the City, it takes half the time you were together to get over him. Here are a few more wise words to help make your next breakup a little easier.

Don’t Talk to Him

The most crucial rule in breaking up is to not talk to the person you’re breaking up with. Even if you think you can handle it and still get over the person, you can’t. Don’t kid yourself; feelings will get hurt. Take some time off, get over him, and maybe someday in the future you’ll be friends. Until then, lick your wounds and recover any way you’d like; whether that be partying hard, staying in bed for days with pints of ice cream, or spending absurd amounts of money on clothes you don’t need. No one will say a thing; we all heal in our own, weird ways.

Snap Out of It

Remember how things, like stupid songs and movies and that little spot in the park that you two went to on your first date used to be “yours”? Well, they’re not anymore. Don’t make a connection to platonic objects when there isn’t one. Remind yourself that you like that spot in the park because of the good view, not because of anyone connected to it. There’s no point losing more than you have to from a breakup, so don’t get all sappy on yourself.

Reconnect with Your Friends

No matter how much you say you’re not going to be that girl who gives up her friends for her boyfriend; everyone gives up a little of their time to spend with their guy. Well, now is the time to make it up to them (and, you could use the girl talk). So, go out and have fun; grab your best wing woman, and remember how much fun being single really is.

Take Some Time For Yourself

Amidst all of this trying not to talk to him, hanging out with friends, partying more and/or eating lots and lots of ice cream-you need to remember to sit back and actually work through your feelings. Understand why things went south, and why you’re better off this way. And in no time you’ll be back to your old self, and what’s-his-name will be a thing of the past.

It’s All About Rewards

And finally, do all of the little things that make you happy every day. Yep, being single means thinking about you, you, you. So, go and take that extra time after work and buy yourself that little ring you’ve been obsessing over. Or take a long walk and meet a friend for cupcakes because well, you can. Have fun spoiling yourself, because you deserve it after….wait, what? I’m forgetting already.

a battered wife’s dilemma


” you guys are lucky for being single me myself… i don’t know i am so messed up i got three kids I’m 22 married to a 36 year old who doesn’t have a stable job who hurts me whenever i don’t follow what he tells me or whenever i do or say something that would insult or hurt him. To think he has so little money but he still gets to have other women. he sleeps with her once a week the woman is a doctor, maybe you guys are wondering why I’m still with him… cause I’m still hoping it will still work out”

The above statement was posted by one of our dear readers from ‘the art of letting go series’.  I can’t help but wonder ‘… for love is like an ocean, its mysteries cannot be revealed nor explained in once lifetime.’

First, I would like to thank you for giving this blog an opportunity to listen to thy current predicament and I hope other readers would also have an opportunity to share their own stories.

I know you have all the right reasons why you are still staying with the relationship and I don’t place fingers on it since your shoes are hard to fill in.  But let me provide tell the story of my own sister which is almost the same as yours.

My sister married a guy 10 years younger than her.  Though I and my parents felt it’s a whirlwind romance, we somehow accepted the fact that she chooses this guy because she is madly in love with and bearing their first child out from wedlock.  My neighbors say that he is a catch since he is young and good looking.  But they don’t know who he really is when he takes off his mask.

Yup…you may almost smell how I despised my sister’s husband.  He is lazy and all of his earning from being a cab driver was solely used by him.  He doesn’t even give any money to my sister though they have four kids.  They are practically living in our home and he doesn’t respect my parents and my sister.

My father nagged my sister to reach out for some ‘self worth’ but she ignored everything what he say, until my brother in law dragged my sister to Davao to establish their own.  A year after, she’s back with her children.  We though that she had finally came back to her senses but we are wrong… she is still carrying an excess baggage.

Till time had passed by, their relationship has gone from bad to worst.  My brother in law does not even share anything from the bills that I pay – from rent, food, electricity etc.  He only gives a sum of money to my sister which cannot last for a week.  Just imagine giving her Php 500.00 for a month’s expense.  How do you think his family will eat with that sum of money with four children to boot?  PLUS, he even has a mistress and has the nerve to bring him at home when i’m not around.  On top of that, he even hurts my sister when she disapproves or asked for extra money.

I have a hint that everything was happening inside our home but my sister kept on denying it.  She always had a lame excuse why she has a large black eye or a fresh wound off from her shoulders.

Until all hell breaks loose when I found out from my cousin that she has seen on her own eyes how miserable my sister is whenever I’m away.  She gave me the full story blow by blow – how she and my nieces skip their meals, how he beats her up and the so called mistress.

I and my sister have had a heart to heart talk…. I ask why he is sticking with the devil.  He said that she is waiting if his husband could still change.

I went berserk!!!   How long will she wait?  Horses will never wear stripes and even if chucks off a devils tail, they will still remain demons.  I ask what really matters, his husband’s transition or her hungry children.  At this point, she has to prioritize her four children ahead from any her plans.  It’s not their fault why they have a shitty father to begin with.  They never had a choice when they were born.  If self worth has already flown away from the window, then look to see your children’s needs

From there, my sister breaks her silence and a river of tears has finally left her eyes.  From there on, she made her first step to freedom…by leaving my brother in law once and for all.

The Art of Letting Go (Part 4)


Thank you so much for such huge feedback regarding this series of post – “the art of letting go’.  So here I am once again, as I serve the fourth series.  I hope you’ll enjoy this post as much as I have.  And on a personal note:  MANTRA 34 fits my current journey through love.

Readers, enjoy the post.


MANTRA 31

Don’t count what you’ve lost

but cherish what you have and plan what you want to gain.

The past never returns but the future may fulfill the loss


MANTRA 32

Don’t put your heart in someone else’s hand

till you’re sure that they wont let go when they get tired of holding it.


MANTRA 33

When you’ve found a reason to walk away…never look back.

Just keep on walking.

It’s better to get lost moving than to get stuck broken.


MANTRA 34


Bakit ka magpaparamdam sa taong di marunong makaramdam….


Wag kang magpakatanga sa taong di marunong magpahalaga


Matuto kang sumuko at mang-iwan, kung lagi ka namang sinasaktan

Imbis na magtanong ka ng hindi pa ba sapat?’

Bakit hindi mo na lang kalimutan ang lahat

Kung alam mong binabaliwala ka na, tanggapin mong nagsasawa na siya.

Wag kang magpadala sa salitang ‘sorry’ at ‘ayokong mawala ka’

Kung totoo you…patunayan niya



MANTRA 35

There will come a point in your life when you’ll get tired of chasing everyone and trying to fix everything… but it doesnt mean you’re giving up. It’s just a realization that you don’t need all those you go after…because what you need are those even if you never needed them


MANTRA 36

It’s hard to open your eyes if your dreams are sweet…

But sometimes it’s a must to wake up

because it’s the only reasonable way to see reality

MANTRA 37

I personally believe that there are just two philosophies in love

Number one is give the best you can

and second…never stay when you are not wanted anymore.

MANTRA 38

Never allow somebody to be your priority

when in fact you’re just his option.

MANTRA 39

A quote to live by:

Ang mabigat na bagay ay gumagaan kapag binitawan


Make sense?

Learn to let go when you’re hurting too much


MANTRA 40

The best feeling in the world is realizing you’re perfectly happy without the ‘thing’ you thought you needed the most